The Female Abuser

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham interviews Juan Ferrer, who bravely shares his experience of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship. This discussion emphasizes the often overlooked experiences of men in abusive situations, detailing manipulative behaviors, trauma bonding, and societal expectations. Juan reflects on his struggles with low self-esteem, the control exerted by his partner, and his transformative journey to self-discovery and healing. The episode underscores the importance of storytelling in reversing power dynamics and highlights the path to regaining self-worth and embracing vulnerability as pivotal in overcoming abuse.

 

Please support Juan's spiritual journey at https://www.instagram.com/scorpse_revival/

and his woodworking business at https://www.instagram.com/spoon.and.board/

 

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https://www.thehotline.org/ 

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00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried

01:18 Highlighting Male Voices in Abuse

02:10 Juan Ferrer's Story Begins

06:30 Early Signs of Abuse

13:35 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse

41:05 Finding Solace in Woodworking

49:24 Escalation of Drama and Self-Defense

51:00 Physical Abuse and Emotional Scarring

54:17 Societal Dynamics and Personal Struggles

58:12 The Breaking Point and Blackmail

01:06:59 The Final Arguments and Breakup

01:14:14 Post-Breakup Challenges and Self-Discovery

01:18:58 The Return and Final Confrontation

01:28:12 Healing and Moving Forward

01:37:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts