What Lies Buried

The Final Girl

In this chilling episode of What Lies Buried, Karly Latham hosts her friend Joy, shedding light on her traumatic childhood marked by emotional and physical abuse from her father. The episode details Joy's survival in an unpredictable and abusive household, her family's perilous attempts to escape, and the courage it took to intervene and save her mother during a violent incident. The narrative explores the impact of domestic violence, the systemic issues in addressing such cases, and Joy's eventual journey to the UK where she began healing through therapy. The story is a testament to resilience, the importance of support systems, and the empowerment found in strategic planning and self-defense. Listeners are provided with practical advice for escaping dangerous situations and finding strength in vulnerability.
 
 
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For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:21 Highlighting Different Types of Abuse
02:06 Introducing Joy: A Story of Parental Abuse
02:49 Joy's Early Childhood: A Mix of Love and Fear
04:10 The Dual Nature of Joy's Father
05:46 The Turning Point: Recognizing the Red Flags
07:09 The Impact of Control and Fear
09:49 Dark Humor as a Coping Mechanism
10:07 Joy's School Years: The Beginning of Realization
37:12 The Hidden Horrors: Joy's Secret Diaries
46:35 The Reality of Escaping Abuse
47:08 Financial and Religious Constraints
47:38 The Role of Women in Conservative Christianity
50:39 The Illusion of Choice in Abusive Relationships
52:44 The Danger of Leaving an Abuser
54:45 The Escalation of Abuse
58:17 The Breaking Point
01:08:29 A Mother's Enabling and a Daughter's Desperation
01:10:30 The Final Confrontation
01:26:18 The Urgency to Escape
01:27:16 Seeking Help from Neighbors
01:29:17 A Heroic Teacher's Aid
01:31:07 Legal and Emotional Battles
01:34:30 Family Dynamics and Gaslighting
01:39:55 Health Crisis and Continued Threats
01:56:16 The Importance of Therapy and Healing
02:02:20 Final Reflections and Advice
 

The Ketamine Addict

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham speaks with an anonymous guest who bravely shares her story of emotional abuse perpetrated by her partner, who struggled with addiction. The guest describes how her relationship, which began during a vulnerable period in her life, transitioned from charming to controlling and abusive. Key elements of the narrative include the partner's manipulative and deceitful tactics, such as love bombing, gaslighting, and isolating her from friends and family, alongside his use of ketamine and alcohol. The guest highlights the complex dynamics of abuse, including the psychological manipulation and the difficult realization that she was being targeted. The episode underscores the importance of trusting one's instincts, seeking professional guidance, and recognizing the red flags of abuse and addiction. It offers valuable insights into the cycle of abuse, the impact on mental health, and how survivors can begin to heal and reclaim their autonomy after leaving an abusive relationship.
 
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
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Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10 
For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
 
 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:16 First Guest from Across the Pond
01:50 The Beginning of the Relationship
04:41 Red Flags and Addictions
10:28 Escalation and Realization
16:02 The Cycle of Abuse
30:37 The Child's Perspective
35:48 The Struggle to Leave
36:49 Valentine's Day Roller Disco
37:52 A Public Confrontation
39:54 The Breaking Point
43:52 Seeking Help and Taking Action
47:52 Reflection and Recovery
51:50 Learning to Trust Again
01:00:36 Final Thoughts and Advice
01:09:31 Conclusion and Support
 

Escaping Cults with The Glory Whole

Join host Karly Latham in this compelling episode of "What Lies Buried," where we delve into the real and raw stories of emotional abuse survivors. This week, Karly welcomes Melissa Doogie Spires, a former Seventh-day Adventist, who shares her journey of leaving the church and dealing with the long-lasting effects of religious control.
Melissa recounts her experiences growing up in a high-demand religion, the church's imposed behavioral controls, and her challenges in breaking free. Together, Karly and Melissa explore the striking similarities between Seventh-day Adventists and Mormons, highlighting the mind control and social pressures that shape their followers' lives.
As they discuss the parallels between religious indoctrination and emotional abuse, listeners will gain insights into the struggles of deconstructing one's faith and rebuilding a life of personal empowerment. This episode sheds light on the hidden truths of religious control and offers a safe space for survivors to share their stories.
Don't miss this eye-opening conversation, which will uncover the truth buried beneath the lies and inspire a path toward healing and self-discovery.
Stay involved with Melissa's advocacy efforts: https://www.instagram.com/the.glory.whole/
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
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Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
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For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:21 Exploring Religious Abuse
01:42 Guest Introduction: Melissa Doogie Spires
02:02 Leaving the Church: Personal Experiences
02:40 Behavioral Controls in Religious Upbringings
04:25 Comparing Mormonism and Seventh-day Adventism
04:46 The Origins and History of Seventh-day Adventism
09:09 The Impact of Dietary Rules and Lifestyle Controls
11:53 Navigating Life Outside the Church
23:43 The Role of Women in High-Demand Religions
39:22 Navigating Family Discomfort with PTSD
40:38 Exploring Financial Abuse and Cognitive Dissonance
42:08 Impact of Religious Upbringing on Emotional Expression
43:14 Struggles with Eating Disorders and Seeking Help
44:28 Normalizing Toxic Relationships
46:48 The Pressure to Maintain a Perfect Appearance
50:59 Exhaustion as a Control Tactic in Religion and Relationships
53:10 Escaping and Deconstructing Abusive Relationships
01:07:24 Writing and Sharing Stories of Religious Trauma
01:15:08 Conclusion and Call to Action
 
 

The F*ck Boi

In this intense episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham examines the harrowing story of an anonymous guest's experience with emotional abuse. The narrative begins with an unstable relationship with Dylan before delving deeper into a complex and deceitful relationship with Nathan. The guest describes highs of affection and love, sharply contrasted by Nathan's deceit, infidelity, and financial manipulation, culminating in revelations of his multiple affairs. The story concludes with the guest's courageous decision to start afresh, leaning on her support system and forming bonds with other victims. Karly provides a vital platform for sharing these isolating experiences, drawing attention to common patterns of emotional abuse and emphasizing the importance of self-belief and emotional support in recovery.
 
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10 
For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:22 Patterns in Emotionally Abusive Relationships
01:56 Guest's Story: The Relationship with Dylan
04:32 The Breakup and Aftermath
06:09 Meeting Nathan: A New Beginning
13:11 The Honeymoon Phase with Nathan
18:49 Red Flags and Relationship Dynamics
31:43 Living Together and Financial Struggles
38:32 Nathan's New Friend Sarah
42:56 Questioning the Relationship
44:19 The European Vacation
46:30 The Breakup Bombshell
52:36 Pandemic Separation
55:58 Birthday Revelations
01:10:04 False Promises and Moving On
01:27:21 New Beginnings and Reflections
01:27:53 Meeting Jeremy and Making It Official
01:28:21 Nathan's Unexpected Reaction
01:30:14 Navigating a New Relationship
01:31:42 Nathan's Art Show and New Connections
01:33:54 Concert Encounter with Colleen
01:36:40 Discovering Nathan's Deception
01:49:08 Confronting the Truth
02:03:44 Reflecting on the Experience
02:05:47 Final Thoughts and Advice
 

Sexual Coercion with Allison Baxley

In this gripping episode of What Lies Buried, host Karly Latham welcomes Allison Baxley, a talented writer from Medium, to share her harrowing experience with emotional and sexual abuse within a 22-year marriage. Allison bravely recounts the escalating abuse, the financial control, and the horrifying moments that led her to realize she was a victim of marital rape.
Through Allison's story, listeners will gain insight into the complexities of abuse, the courage it takes to leave, and the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional and psychological manipulation. This episode is a powerful reminder that support and justice are crucial for survivors.
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of abuse, including sexual coercion and domestic violence, which may be triggering for some listeners. Please proceed with caution.
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com 
https://medium.com/@baxleyallisonw Allison Baxley on Medium 
https://medium.com/@karly-latham/sexual-coercion-e643a72b197f Sexual Coercion article 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:16 Meet Allison Baxley: A Story of Escalating Abuse
03:33 Financial Control and Emotional Manipulation
07:51 Realization and Recognition of Domestic Violence
12:38 Sexual Coercion and Marital Rape
19:44 The Struggle for Autonomy and Peace
37:27 The Decision to Seek Justice
47:36 Discovering the Deleted Email
50:09 Family Vacation Nightmare
52:18 Revealing the Abuse to Friends and Family
54:21 Deciding to Leave
01:09:18 The Healing Journey Begins
01:11:11 Therapeutic Techniques and Hypnosis
01:26:16 Final Words and Advice
 
 
 
 
 

The Catholic

Welcome to What Lies Buried, where host Karly Latham delves into the raw and real stories of emotional abuse survivors. This week's episode is a compelling follow-up with Tonya, who shares the early stages of her relationship, the impact of a hyper-religious environment, and the unraveling of her marriage.
From meeting at a conservative Catholic university to navigating a marriage filled with concealed secrets and financial betrayals, Tonya reveals the emotional and psychological turmoil she endured. A survivor who recounts her experiences of betrayal, financial ruin, and eventual healing after a tumultuous marriage at an ultra-conservative Catholic university. Additionally, two mothers share their poignant stories of co-parenting post-divorce, navigating emotional challenges, and fostering resilience in their children. The discussions underscore the importance of self-discovery, therapy, and supportive relationships in overcoming trauma and rebuilding a nurturing environment for personal and familial growth.
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com 
For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:20 Tonya's Early Relationship and College Life
08:23 Marriage and Early Challenges
09:27 Struggles with Family Planning and Health
12:42 The Beginning of the End
15:39 Vacation Tensions and Medication Issues
44:42 Discovering Financial Betrayal
45:43 Unraveling the Debt
46:43 Facing Foreclosure and Repossession
48:44 The Aftermath of Separation
51:11 Struggles of Co-Parenting
58:19 New Beginnings with Josh
01:03:23 The Pain of Abandonment
01:09:11 Moving Forward and Healing
01:23:47 Final Thoughts and Advice
 

High Demand Religion Round Table

In this powerful episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham and guests Kurstin and Tonya bravely share their personal stories of emotional and financial abuse within their former high-demand religious communities. As ex-Mormons and a former devout Catholic, they reveal the systemic pressures that facilitated mistreatment and perpetuated cycles of guilt and shame. The episode discusses their journeys of leaving their faiths, the complexities of managing household finances, and the trauma of financial mismanagement discovered post-separation. Challenges such as single parenting and finding self-worth are explored alongside the importance of building a supportive network. Trigger warnings for themes of emotional and religious abuse are provided.
 
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com 
For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:17 Special Episode: Ex-Mormon Round Table
02:43 Personal Stories of Emotional Abuse
05:10 The Pressure to Conform in Religious Communities
08:08 Sexual Expectations and Marital Struggles
10:36 The Burden of Religious Guilt
13:54 Breaking Free and Finding Support
17:27 Reflecting on Past Relationships
48:17 Cognitive Dissonance in High-Demand Religions
48:44 Recognizing Emotional Abuse
49:56 Gendered Expectations and Patriarchy
51:35 The Burden of Household Responsibilities
59:41 Struggles of Leaving a Toxic Marriage
01:12:46 Financial Abuse and Control
01:33:46 The Fear of Being Alone
01:35:28 Final Thoughts and Advice
 

The Firefighter

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham has a candid conversation with her friend Kurstin, who reveals her deeply personal experiences of emotional abuse within a toxic marriage. Their discussion highlights the influence of their Mormon upbringing on their relationships and Kurstin's struggle with manipulation and isolation. They explore the taboo of divorce in their faith, the psychological impact of staying in an unhealthy relationship, and the eventual empowerment Kurstin found in reclaiming her life. Her story offers profound insights and encouragement for those facing similar challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and the strength required to pursue happiness and freedom.
 
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com 
For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:16 Upcoming Episodes and Guest Introduction
01:52 Kurstin's Story: Religious Upbringing and Marriage
03:09 Struggles and Realizations in Marriage
06:09 Emotional Abuse and Breaking Points
13:45 The Decision to Divorce
42:43 The Stigma of Divorce in the Mormon Church
44:19 Struggles and Personal Losses
45:41 Separation and the Fight for Independence
46:11 Rediscovering Self-Worth Through Modeling
47:06 Confronting the Emotional Manipulation
49:42 The Legal Battle and Emotional Turmoil
51:02 Family Dynamics and Support Systems
54:58 Breaking Free from an Abusive Relationship
01:10:19 Post-Divorce Healing and Self-Discovery
01:17:28 Final Thoughts and Advice
 

The Womanizer

In this revealing episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham converses with an anonymous guest about their painful experience in a manipulative and emotionally abusive 'situationship.' The discussion touches on themes such as breadcrumbing, love bombing, sexual coercion, and stalking, illustrating the complex dynamics and red flags prevalent in abusive relationships. The episode highlights how the guest was initially groomed and betrayed by a manipulative individual, their connection with other victims, and their journey toward healing. Emphasizing the importance of therapy, self-worth, and support systems, the conversation gives listeners insights on recognizing abuse, listening to intuition, and making safety plans. The episode concludes with encouraging advice on self-love, healing, and rediscovering joy and trust after trauma while also cautioning listeners on the triggering themes discussed.
 
Sexual Coercion article: https://medium.com/@karly-latham/sexual-coercion-e643a72b197f 
 
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com 
For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:16 Guest Introduction and Initial Story
02:55 The Situationship Unfolds
05:22 Red Flags and Realizations
09:09 The Betrayal Revealed
11:28 Emotional Turmoil and Manipulation
13:42 Confrontation and Confusion
26:32 Understanding Sexual Coercion
45:17 Healing and Moving Forward
52:31 Reflecting on a Toxic Relationship
53:53 Uncovering the Truth
57:18 The Power of Silence
01:00:10 The Impact of Betrayal
01:01:33 The Cycle of Abuse
01:07:50 Digital Stalking and Its Effects
01:13:45 Finding Support and Healing
01:26:54 Moving Forward and Final Thoughts
 

The Female Abuser

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham interviews Juan Ferrer, who bravely shares his experience of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship. This discussion emphasizes the often overlooked experiences of men in abusive situations, detailing manipulative behaviors, trauma bonding, and societal expectations. Juan reflects on his struggles with low self-esteem, the control exerted by his partner, and his transformative journey to self-discovery and healing. The episode underscores the importance of storytelling in reversing power dynamics and highlights the path to regaining self-worth and embracing vulnerability as pivotal in overcoming abuse.
 
Please support Juan's spiritual journey at https://www.instagram.com/scorpse_revival/
and his woodworking business at https://www.instagram.com/spoon.and.board/
 
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help: 
https://www.thehotline.org/ 
Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told. 
If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes please write in to karlyr.latham@gmail.com 
For in depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham 
 
00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried
01:18 Highlighting Male Voices in Abuse
02:10 Juan Ferrer's Story Begins
06:30 Early Signs of Abuse
13:35 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse
41:05 Finding Solace in Woodworking
49:24 Escalation of Drama and Self-Defense
51:00 Physical Abuse and Emotional Scarring
54:17 Societal Dynamics and Personal Struggles
58:12 The Breaking Point and Blackmail
01:06:59 The Final Arguments and Breakup
01:14:14 Post-Breakup Challenges and Self-Discovery
01:18:58 The Return and Final Confrontation
01:28:12 Healing and Moving Forward
01:37:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts